Fear of failure

The fear of falling is real; from young we are hardwired thinking that failure is not good. Scoring badly for your tests is not good. Not being able to get into a good school is not good. Not being able to get into the CCA that you desire is not good. How many of us were actually PRAISED when you fail? How many of us would be recognised when we fail? Well, we don’t. Not exactly.

People generally don’t remember those who failed, they only remember those who succeeded. Imagine if Thomas Edison did not successfully invented the lightbulb, would there be anyone who will remember the person who failed 10,000 times? No. However without failure, we won’t be able to reap success.

Failure is an integral part of a journey to success. People who usually succeed are those who have already failed 10, 100 or even 1000 times. The difference is they fail, they pick themselves up and they soldier on. They persevere, they push themselves and they get up and fight. Success don’t come to them, they CHASE after success.

Why is it that we are so afraid to fail?

We are afraid that we waste time doing things that will not be rewarded.

We are afraid of being put down by the opinion of others.

We are afraid to be alone in fighting a battle with no end.

We are afraid to take risks because we do not want to change the status quo.

We are afraid.

Fear of failure is so great that it holds our hearts hostage and prevents us from taking a bold step forward. It blinds us from seeing the other end of the rainbow and what potentially might be the Leprechaun’s gold. But that’s not how it is supposed to be.

High risks are often associated with high rewards. This is evident both in investing and in our daily lives. Investing in riskier financial products such as forex and equities will always reap more returns than investing in bonds or fixed deposits – that’s a fact. Climbing that unknown treacherous path alone to the top of the mountain might reward with you with a view that will take your breath away – but you’ll never know till you take the first step up.

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The point is, the path to success can be lonely. You’ll be faced with many setbacks, many people who put you down, many people who think that you wouldn’t succeed. There will be times when you feel like giving up, feel like everything you are doing is not worth the effort. But remember that in life, you are not doing it for others, you are doing everything for yourself. Only you will care the most about yourself. Only you will know what you truly need. Ignore the naysayers and dare to fail. Have the courage to soldier on and fight every battle one at a time. It takes time but as long as you don’t give up, you’ll reach there eventually. Only when you start learning how to fail, you’ll start to succeed.

I am afraid to fail but i’m MORE afraid of not being able to succeed. 

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the Birth of “Liberty Loh!”

I thought it will be interesting to share why I suddenly want to start this blog. I am not a very good writer, nor a person who can express his ideas clearly through written words. But I thought it would be nice to get out of my comfort zone to try something that I’ve never tried before. But that is not the primary reason why I wanted to do this.

I needed a place to store my memories.

To let the future me know – Hey you did all those cool things like travelling alone, dancing on stage, and all those bullshit that you’ve spent so much time on, don’t lose that dream! Don’t get sucked into the abyss of adulthood and lose the kid in you – it is that simple.

I want to let the future me know that I had done great feats, magical experiences, dreamt a lot (and still dreaming). I want to let the future me know that I need to keep that promise I have made to myself – to continue dreaming, continue making memories.

To the future me, this blog is for you.

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